Tuesday, May 20, 2014

你的旅行是「增強人生厚度」還是「移動身體」

一位來自法國的旅人。那時他已經在亞洲旅行了半年,香港、新加坡、日本、越南、寮國、柬埔寨……每個地方都待上個十來天,通常也沒有安排規劃。他享受漫無目的的感覺,感覺膩了就換一個國家。這些聽在我耳裡近乎「夢幻」的旅人生活,讓我不禁興奮又羨慕,但是他的一番言論卻點醒了我:

「其實你不用羨慕我,像你這樣拼命工作後出來旅行才是好的。當你旅行久了就會發現,如果人生沒有目標或是正在努力進行的工作,它其實非常乏味。看來看去不是人文景觀就是自然景觀,你只是例行性的移動自己的身體、穿梭在不同地方罷了。」

一、旅行的基本特質是讓人身處「異地」,加速「反思」的進行。

當我們提到旅行時,直覺是「到一個自己不熟悉的地方」。身處異地的時候,很多事情我們不能當作理所當然,這加速了我們腦袋中「比較系統」的運作,會自然而然地去想:這跟我原本的生活有什麼不同嗎?

所謂的「異地」並非一定指的是「地點的相異」,就像大部分的人以為旅行一定要出國,但是其實只要讓自己體會和平常生命經驗中「不一樣」的事情、做不一樣的嘗試,都可以是一種「置身地」。譬如說登山或是上教堂、偶爾跑到青年旅舍去住、吃自己本來討厭的東西、穿背心上街等等……食、衣、住、行、育、樂,有很多不同的方法可以讓我們「身處異地」。

例如在印度的時候,想要叫車卻非常無奈,因為練了十幾年的英文,不論是聽力或口說,在獨特的「印式英語」面前都無用武之地。原來在自己的国家每天上下班那麼的容易方便,既沒有漫飛的塵土、凹凸不平的路,也沒有雞同鴨講的司機與蠻橫無理的乘客,好不幸福。

另一個角度來說這經驗也可以是有趣的,至少我也沒想過在上班或前往一個目的地的路上,可以充滿荊棘與挑戰;反觀自己在家鄉的生活,好像每一件事情都有美好的規律,每一件事情都應該依照某種期待去運行,很難有超越期待的驚喜發生。

二、「反思」是為了「改變」,為了推進生命的「前進」

身處異地讓很多的比較可以發生,我們可以選擇只是讓它閃過腦袋,或是積極的思考:從這些比較中我發現了什麼?這些發現有助於我改變現狀嗎?

當我們回答這問題時,「反思」就發生了。我們通常在想要改變的時候才會反思,所以我覺得旅行不該是例行性的公事,應該是在一個人想要「改變」現狀的時候發生,或著是應該要在旅行的時候尋找一些可以讓自己變的更好的線索。如此一來旅行就很難乏味,每一次的旅行都可以積極推進我們的生命去「前進」。

三、旅行 X 工作 X 生活 = 生命的廣度 X 深度 X 厚度

根據上述兩點推論,在「異地反思」前若沒有豐富的工作或生活,可能就沒有太多感受與經驗可以去做連結,反思就比較難以進行,也比較難有意想不到的收穫。

那些平時在原地認真工作、生活的人們,平時靠工作累積了豐富的「深度」,因生活琢磨了足夠的「廣度」,當旅行所帶來的異地反思發生時,所見所聞就有很多再詮釋的空間,也會因為連結而產生很多靈感與想像。這樣的反思搭配原本累積的深廣度,讓生命更加豐富。我喜歡用增強了「生命的厚度」來形容,這種生命厚度不會消失,也難以被取代。

對於那些工作、生活一成不變的人,缺乏生命的深度與廣度,「異地反思」為其生命注入了新的刺激與可能性。回到原地時,讓人有了一個動機,透過工作與生活的調整重新打造自己的「三維生命面向」。

最慘的就是那些「為了旅行而旅行」的人,在美麗的異地流連時卻被「盲目的旅行」蒙蔽,好像一定要在有限的時間內把行程塞到最滿;或是找一間像樣的紀念品店,殺它個片甲不留。換來的是類似「我曾經去過……」的表面戰功,沒有類似「那趟旅行讓我發現……」或是「那趟旅行後我下定決心……」之類的生命反思,這種行為就好像「原地踏步」一樣,相當可惜!

最後我想跟大家分享三個我覺得很好的旅行型態和旅人態度:

大旅行:對工作和生活極度不滿意的時候,你應該給自己一段時間的逃跑(至少一個月),逃到一個對你來說非常不能理解的「異地」,給自己一個承諾,希望透過異地反思獲得一個新的生命態度。回到「原地」時,用新的態度去面對舊的環境,抑或是換一個新的環境。
旅人態度:這一趟旅程結束後,生命一定要改變

中旅行:工作、生活過得去,但是慢慢感覺到無聊、一成不變,這時候需要大概「一個周末」的短期逃跑,這會讓我們的工作、生活恢復彈性。
旅人態度:我需要充電,讓原本的生活更多采多姿

小旅行:平常就很懂得享受工作、生活的人,隨時隨地都在做新的嘗試,每天都在累積生命的廣度、深度、厚度,新的一天就是一場新的小旅行。
旅人態度:我是生命的旅人,無時無刻都在嘗試、反思、享受,累積生命的面向。


想要什麼樣的旅行,擁抱什麼樣的旅人態度,決定權都在我們自己身上。
享受吧,讓我們一起做生命的旅人。





The Smart Creative's Guide to Dressing for Work by Christian Jarrett

With designer labels and high heels, we’ve come a long way since clothing was about nothing more than modesty and warmth. And yet, for many of us, what we wear for work has become automatic and habitual. We drag on a suit each day, out of routine, nothing more. Or we slouch about in baggy casual gear because we’re freelance, or working remotely, so we can.

By dressing mindlessly like this we’re ignoring the large amount of evidence showing the profound effect of clothing on our thinking style, on how we feel, and on the way others perceive us. Starting today, you can use clothing and props to improve your work performance through these simple steps:

Dress for the task: the “Lab Coat” effect
Consider the findings of a study published last year by the Kellogg School of Management. They showed that students were far more accurate on tests of attentional focus and sustained concentration while wearing the white lab coat of a scientist. Crucially, spending time thinking about the lab coat didn’t have this benefit, it had to be worn.

These results suggest that donning symbolic apparel can alter our thinking style in beneficial ways that are consistent with the meaning that the clothing holds for us. So whatever project you’re currently working on, consider dressing for that role. Think what clothing symbolizes the attributes you need to succeed and wear those threads while you work. If there’s nothing as obvious as a lab coat, why not look to role models in your field and see what they wear – perhaps something flamboyant for when you want to be creative, a shirt and tie for when you’re working on the accounts. The important thing is that the clothing has the right symbolic meaning for the work you’re doing. In the study, the white coat had no attentional benefits when the students thought it was a painter’s jacket, not a scientist’s coat.

Be yourself and respect your own style
As well as affecting our mindset, our clothes can also alter how we feel about ourselves. U.S. research published in 2007 found that employees described themselves as feeling more productive, trustworthy, and authoritative when they were wore a business suit at work, but more friendly when wearing casual clothes.

An important detail here was the employees’ style preferences. It was smart types with a clear preference for wearing formal work attire whose feelings of productivity were most adversely affected when they’d worked in an office with a casual dress code. On the other hand, it was hipster staff with a strong preference for laid-back wear who felt most strongly that suits hampered their friendliness and creativity. Of course not all work places give you the freedom to choose, but if you can, these findings show it pays to respect your own style.

Choose your weapons (and accessories) wisely
The psychological effects of clothing on performance extend to tools and props. A 2011 study led by Charles Lee at the University of Virginia showed that university students perceived a putting hole to be larger (thus making more putts) when they used a putter that they thought belonged to the pro player Ben Curtis, as compared with a standard putter

Whether it’s a lucky pen handed down from a mentor, or a mouse-mat from your first successful product launch, the symbolic power of the objects we work with is more than mere superstition or sentimentality. Their meaning can alter our mindset and improve our performance. The same principles also apply when choosing what to wear – that lucky tie or necklace really could give you an edge at an interview.

Dress to impress
If you want to appear authoritative it really does make sense to dress smart. A raft of studies have shown that people in more formal attire get served more quickly in shops, have more luck soliciting charity donations, and are usually judged to be more intelligent and academic. A study that looked specifically at female applicants for a managerial job found those who dressed in a smart masculine style were perceived as more forceful and aggressive and were more likely to get hired.

If you can, pay attention to detail. Research published this year using faceless photographs, found that a man dressed in a bespoke suit was rated as more confident, successful, and flexible than a man dressed in an off-the-rack suit. “Minor clothing manipulations can give rise to significantly different inferences,” the researchers said.

This suggests it could be worth going the extra mile when dressing yourself for an important meeting or interview. The same principles also apply when it comes to group image. A survey in 2009 found that business students rated companies with a formal dress code as more authoritative and competent, while those with a more relaxed approach, were seen as more friendly and creative. So if you’re a manager in charge of your organization’s dress code, think about the kind of image you’d like to cultivate. Which leads to the final point …

Consider your audience
Formal suits aren’t always the way to go. Research shows that people who wear more daring outfits are perceived as more attractive and individual, which could be advantageous in more creative industries. Casual dress can also be more persuasive, depending on your audience. In 2010, a female experimenter reported that students were far more diligent in following her detailed instructions when she was dressed casually (like they were), as opposed to smart and professional. This similarity effect echoes a study conducted in the early 80s in which experimenters sought a dime for a telephone call. Smartly dressed researchers had more luck at an airport, where more people were dressed formally; casually dressed researchers had more luck at a bus station.

If you need to be persuasive at work, the lesson from these studies is that there’s no single rule for how to dress. You need to balance the power of authority, which you get from smartness, against the allure of camaraderie, which comes from dressing like your audience, and may require going more casual.

The next time you’re getting dressed for work in the morning, be mindful of the psychological impact that clothes can have. Your choice could literally affect your mindset, so try to match your outfit to the type of work you’re planning to do. If interacting with other people is on the cards – consider who they are, the impression you want to make, and especially whether you want to impress them or be one of them. A polished professional look can certainly give you authority. But if you’re collaborating with quirky creatives, or you want to cultivate a friendly atmosphere, you may find it’s advantageous to adopt a more casual, individual style for the day.